Have you ever left a conversation and wondered, “What just happened?” Or, you leave feeling worse or more discouraged or even angry. You may have been swept up into the undertow of someone else’s emotions.
An undertow is a current of water that lies below a peaceful surface. It’s a powerful current that can sweep the strongest of swimmers out to sea. And you may not know it’s there until it’s too late.
Truth be told, there are people who would love for you to swim in the undertow of their dysfunctions. Their pity needs a party and you’re invited.
But just say no.
Getting swept up in the undertow is different than feeling genuine empathy and compassion. Empathy and compassion are healthy and can lead the person towards healing. The undertow will just pull you further and further down.